Women often find plenty of uncertainties regarding a man’s commitment. It’s not a surprising fact that most men have commitment issues. Women often get crazy figuring out if the man is serious about her and would finally commit to her one day. The feeling is unpleasant as it makes you doubt your love, your relationship and also yourself. Let’s look at the following problem regarding commitment issues and find out a suitable solution.
Despite being in a relationship for 14 years, the man doesn’t want to get married. They have a son and have been living together for the last one year. The woman wants to get married earnestly, but the man is afraid to commit, despite saying he loves her and is extremely devoted to their son. The man believes that they have “issues”.[su_frame]
Should you move on?
Before moving on, you should consider a few things:
a. Do you know him well? : One thing that signifies that a man is serious about a woman is when he shares his dreams, fears, and insecurities with her. If he has let you into his world, it’s because he is serious about you and will surely commit one day.
b. He disappears for weeks: If he keeps disappearing for many days without informing or regretting, it means he is not serious and will probably never commit.
c. He never takes you on a real date: If he never puts an effort to make you feel special, it means he is not serious. You should move on if you see that you are the only one who always makes the effort to sustain the relationship.
d. Not introducing you to his family: If you have never talked to his family, despite being in a long-term relationship, it clearly means that he is not serious enough to introduce you to his family.
How can you make him commit?
If you are sure that your man is serious about you, but is commitment phobic, you can follow these simple tips to make him commit to you:
a. If he is not ready to marry you, shake things up. Get extremely busy at work or go on a long vacation with your girlfriend. Give him a lot of space. Be mysterious and don’t be clingy at all.
b. Your behavior will surely make him anxious. He will start missing you and will probably decide to marry you to keep you around him.
c. Lastly, talk to him and sort the issues patiently.[su_frame]
Even after giving him all the space and time, if you notice that he is nonchalant, it will be better to move on.